fri 15 apr 2011 02:44:53 — witte de withstraat
seeminly subtle morality thing
a 19 year old woman who seems frequently to get attracted to men at least old enough to be her father, befriended a friend of mine, who was worried about her seemingly unquenchable urge and how it might lead to her being taken advantage of.
then a friend and contemporary of his got together with this young woman.
the neighbors were scandalized. they said: it's not the age difference we object to, it's the fact that an experienced man should know better than to enable her disturbed penchant. his inability to treat her predilictions as a disability makes him disgusting.
when i thought about it, i wondered:
if there's nothing wrong with the age difference, then how is the 19 year old's predeliction for 55 year olds any more disturbed than, for example, if she had turned out to be into S&M? the logic of expecting us to be sensitive to her problem because she's younger, rests in the idea that it's a problem at all.
if it's wrong for young and old to sleep together, then it's wrong. if it isn't, it's not.
i was reluctant to come to this conclusion, but i did.