fri 30 dec 2011 12:35:14 hotel pestana porto
wanting is not the same as thinking you deserve
the thing is, wanting something isn't the same as thinking you deserve it. when people get irritated by the 'unfair' desires of the opposite sex, for example, they seem to believe that the other wants what they want on purpose, as if they've decided to want it, when in fact true desires are unconnected to the will. people can say, of your love, 'you'd be better off with someone more your type or your age or your politics or your education or your race'. so what? what is the use in saying such things? nobody can decide to want what they don't want. and nobody can unwant what they do want. at best they can wait till the feeling passes.
if i'm in a desert and long for water, it's not for thinking i've earned a drink. if i see beauty in a woman and wish she was mine, it's not because i think she 'should' be mine. i just want her.
maybe that's why i was so touched by the expression from that 1932 'our gang' film, where stymie is asked 'got any money? how do you expect to eat?' replies with a smile, 'oh we don't expect it — we just want it!'